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grerp: the PERSONAL side of AAR Rachel
Making some personal progress...
posted Friday, 19 September 2003
Yesterday during preschool story hour, I chatted with Sally, a mom who has three adorable children (including the uber-cute Jake). I asked about her sister whom I knew was in the process of adopting a child from Russia. Sally said the adoption went through smoothly. They adopted a seven-month old girl, Tatiana, who is so sweet and happy. She is adjusting well. She said the process was a little scary because originally the child was listed as having a number of specific physical ailments, but that they found out later that was the way the orphanage got around the government's requirements. In order to allow a child to leave Russia, it has to have something wrong with it. So they put a bunch of medical conditions on her paperwork so Tatiana could be released for adoption. She's perfectly healthy though. The process of getting her, start to finish, took 7 months and $16,000. That's a lot less time and money than I was visualizing, and with R. and R.'s donation and the tax write-off, financially feasible.
Suddenly I got all excited thinking that I could be a mom in less than a year. It was such a freeing thought that I could do this and not be hostage to this betraying body of mine. That it could actually happen. I could really be a mom.
Last spring Sally offered to get me information on Russian adoption, but I just wasn't ready. The infertility process left me so drained and angry, and I couldn't see past the process of getting pregnant or get beyond how unfair it all was. But I must have leaped over a hurdle in the last several months, because now the adoption process seems more doable. Still a hassle, but a hassle with a point. J. doesn't want to start the process immediately, but if I'm not pregnant by February (his 39th birthday), we will start doing the paperwork then.
Suddenly I got all excited thinking that I could be a mom in less than a year. It was such a freeing thought that I could do this and not be hostage to this betraying body of mine. That it could actually happen. I could really be a mom.
Last spring Sally offered to get me information on Russian adoption, but I just wasn't ready. The infertility process left me so drained and angry, and I couldn't see past the process of getting pregnant or get beyond how unfair it all was. But I must have leaped over a hurdle in the last several months, because now the adoption process seems more doable. Still a hassle, but a hassle with a point. J. doesn't want to start the process immediately, but if I'm not pregnant by February (his 39th birthday), we will start doing the paperwork then.
comments (4)
1. canciona left...
Wednesday, 15 November 2006 8:50 pm :: http://canciona.livejournal.com
Sweetie, if you're feeling positive about this, then I am so happy for you!
I know it's not the path you were hoping to follow, but you will be such a
great mom that I'm glad you have options to choose from in order to get
there.
2. grerp left...
Wednesday, 15 November 2006 8:51 pm :: http://grerp.livejournal.com
"I'm really glad you're feeling more optimistic about this whole subject."
3. jenbabblingon left...
Wednesday, 15 November 2006 8:52 pm :: http://jen_babbling_on.livejournal.com
FYI
http://travel.state.gov/adoption_russia.html
4. ballerina_girl left...
Wednesday, 15 November 2006 8:52 pm :: http://ballerina_girl.livejournal.com
Oh, I'm so happy for you. I'm really glad to see you're feeling positive
about adoption. You are going to be such a great mom.